Two guys discuss the ideas, influences, epiphanies, and yes - the feelings - that make them better men.

Jaemin and Gabe discuss embracing the lows of life, as well as manscaping, banishing phones from bedrooms, an easier way to call your representatives, updates on Jaemin's online dating life, and more!

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Show Notes

(4:20) Deep Dive: Embracing the Lows

(6:20) Interview with Allie Lapidus on having to take a retail makeup job that she was resisting for years – and how it ended up being exactly what she needed.

(9:40) What makes lows such powerful growth catalysts?

(11:50) Jaemin’s low story: struggling with severe hypothyroidism for 6 months and becoming a monk on a mountaintop.

(15:25) How lows force you to carve out your own unique path – and help you become a teacher for others.

(17:32) Is there way to smooth out the crashes between highs and lows?

(22:53) Strategies on dealing with lows when they come up.

(26:53) How helpful a therapist can be (and how annoying it can be to find the right one).

(31:26) Quick Picks

Gabe’s #1: Buy an old school alarm clock (and keep your phone out of the bedroom).

(35:07) Jaemin’s #1: Easily call your representatives with the 5 Calls app.

(39:18) Gabe’s #2: Two pop culture recommendations: a podcast called Longform and a graphic novel called Saga.


(43:05) Jaemin’s #2: Getting a bodyhair trimmer (Philips Norelco Bodygroom).

(44:36) Gabe’s #3: Recomendo weekly newsletter.(46:33) Jaemin’s #3: Master of None S2 (Netflix).
– Master of None “Thanksgiving” episode recap
– Kumail Nanjiani’s The Big Sick
Hasan Minhaj: Homecoming King

Find Us Online

Gabe’s twitter

– Gabe’s latest post: “Simple Lifehack: Banishing the Phone From the Bedroom””
Jaemin’s twitter
– Jaemin’s latest post: “The Relationship Theory that Melted My Cold Heart”
Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by Broke For Free

About the podcast

    Jaemin and Gabe are childhood BFF’s whose lives went in radically different directions. Jaemin dove into spirituality, nomadism, and communal living, while Gabe organized political movements, read nerdy history books, and got married. Yet they’ve always been able to meet somewhere in the middle and learn from each other’s journeys.

    Join Guys with Feelings as they continue their lifelong exploration of the ideas, influences, epiphanies, and yes – the feelings – that make them better men.

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Jaemin and Gabe welcome their first ever Guest with Feelings: Alex Zobel, a modern-day Renaissance woman who has a PhD in 16th century English Lit, teaches prisoners in San Quentin, is building her own tiny home, and opening a brewery with her brother, among other things.

The three of them discuss: how to become a modern day Renaissance person, what San Quentin prisoners thought of the election, what Standing Rock taught Alex (radical listening), IUD's and accessible poetry, and much more!

As part of Jaemin's October Creativity Challenge, he finally moved forward with something he's always wanted to do: record a podcast!

So he sat down with Gabe Rose, a lifelong friend and frequent collaborator, and they decided to hit the record button and see what happened.

In their first podcast attempt, they cover topics such as:

• sleep drugs extracted from sleepy cats
• giving up a kidney
• undergoing a journey of the senses
• why religion is underrated
• what we’re missing about Trump supporters
• and much more!

And there's a bonus surprise if you wait til the end... Enjoy!